My unpopular opinion is getting sober does not make everyone’s life better. This year, after 7 years of not being sober (I started when I was 16, im 23 now), I quit drinking, smoking cigarettes/vaping, and smoking weed. I cant pinpoint a single thing about my life that’s better from cutting out these things. But now that I’m sober I can’t really figure out why it was a bad thing. My dad was an alcoholic and was a terrible parent, which was another reason I wanted to be sober, I didn’t want to become him.
Why I Thought Sobriety Was Boring
- Because I have a history of cancer in my family, when I first started the doctor visits, I constantly assumed the worst.
- And it was out of necessity rather than choice.
- I mentioned that boredom can unlock old behaviors.
- That may be a question that comes up when you are faced with many difficult challenges that are completely out of your control.
Or maybe those crotchety old-timers like to complain about life. Or the newcomer has unrealistic expectations and judges others unfairly. Perhaps some just prefer to behave like jerks.
- When something hits you hard, don’t ignore it and hope it goes away.
- Remember how family and friends wouldn’t return calls or didn’t trust to leave you alone.
- You learn the hard lessons, And you evolve.
- I soon attracted a Crossfit crowd into my life.
- I stopped drinking at the end of 2016 and have stayed sober ever since.
Don’t expect everything to be the same
- No matter how tired I am after work or how little I feel like going to the gym, I still do it.
- How many relapses are a result of people thinking they can handle it by themselves?
- Taking a moment to handle your problem head on will not only save you time in the long run but also relieve your emotional struggle when life sucks.
- When it seems like all you want to do is forget, to go get high or drunk and be gone, if only for a few moments, remember what addiction’s cost you.
One of the first telltale signs for me is that I no longer see facial expressions. I’m a very unfit fiddle in those moments. When I first learned how to meditate, it was one of the most difficult things to do. Or, my mind would wander in totally different directions. All this pressure means that something has to give, and often the first thing that goes is taking care of our mental health.
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Even though breakups, job losses, and an unexpected death of a friend or family member, can be devastating, they will all happen alcoholism at some point. And you need to know that you can make it through without relapsing.
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- So before you run off searching day and night for sobriety, you better make sure you know what that actually means.
- When you’re feeling low, instead of sitting at home in isolation feeling sorry for yourself, get up and head to the local soup kitchen or veteran’s association.
- Imagine the challenges of trying to sit in a car for that long a period of time when the very act of sitting was uncomfortable for me.
- You have to decide, really decide, what it is that you want.
- If you make it to 60 Days, then you go 90 days.
- Spend time focused on someone other than yourself and your own situation won’t seem so bad.
When I quit drinking, back in December of 2016, I being sober sucks felt like my boredom was driving me out of my mind. I couldn’t find anything to entertain myself, so I ended up sitting around my apartment thinking about alcohol all day. Discover your own new sober lifestyle. Benson was at one time in his life feeling down and out. Through humbling experiences, a pioneering spirit, and just plain stubbornness, Benson dug himself out of that deep, dark hole.
